Turning Points to Learning Points.

One of the major themes of the course " The Pursuit of Excellence." was that you have to take responsibility for your attitude and for your success. It got me out of the blame game and taught me to toss the emotional baggage and attitudes that were holding me back.
As part of the course, we were required to review all of the major experiences of our lives - our turning points - and recognize how the choices we made at each point shaped our lives afterward. The idea was to convert those turning points into learning points. Instead of beating yourself up over mistakes you've made or losses you've suffered, you resolve to learn from and move on.
Sure, it's easier said than done in many instances, but it's a much more constructive way to deal with life's ups and downs.